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Brave mum shares photos of dead son born at 14 weeks after doctors brand him ‘medical waste’

HAVING a stillbirth or miscarriage is every parent’s worst nightmare.

But even more distressing is having doctors tell you that your baby is nothing but “medical waste” that should be aborted.

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Which is why one brave mum is sharing images of her dead son at just 14 weeks to prove that he’s a “real baby”.

Sharran Sutherland, 40, took the heartbreaking images of the four-inch-long baby who weighed just 26g, showing his fully-formed face, hands, feet and tiny fingernails.

Babies can’t legally be classified as a baby until they’re 20-weeks-old in certain states in the US – meaning that Miran would have been disposed of as medical waste by the hospital if his parent’s hadn’t intervened.

So mum-of-11 Sharran and her husband Michael, kept their baby in their fridge for a week before burying him in a flowerpot under a hydrangea bush.

Despite the devastating heartbreak, Sharran says that she’s “grateful” she got the chance to give birth, see and hold Miran before she said goodbye.

But she says that Miran’s legal status as a foetus and not a child has stopped her from being able to grieve properly.

Now, Sharran is sharing her photos in a bid to show just how fully formed babies can be at such an early stage.

Sharran, from Fair Grove, Missouri, US, said: “Looking at him, holding him in my hand, looking at how perfectly formed he was: I was amazed.

“I just couldn’t believe how perfect everything was on him. His ears, his tongue, his gums, his lips. I couldn’t believe it.

“You have those baby books that show you diagrams of a baby in utero but he didn’t look like anything I had ever seen. I was just filled with such awe and amazement with him.

“He just needed to continue maturing and growing and developing. It blew me away. It was an incredible feeling. It’s really hard to describe.

“Even though he had died, I was given that chance to hold my baby still. That longing was fulfilled. I was grateful for that. I couldn’t fathom it.”

She says that unborn babies are “dehumanised”, and that the way we see foetuses affects not only women who elect to have terminations but also mums who lose their wanted babies.

When is a baby a baby?

The UK operates a little differently to the US when it comes to the legal rights of unborn babies.

Abortions

Abortions in England, Wales and Scotland tend to be carried out before 24 weeks of pregnancy.

They can happen after that but only in exceptional circumstances – e.g if the mother’s life is at risk or the child would be born with a severe disability.

Survival rate 

The earliest a foetus can survive out of the womb is 22 weeks gestation (when there is a 0-10 per cent chance of survival).

At 24 weeks a foetus is considered viable, meaning doctors will intervene as their organs are mature enough to give them a chance of surviving. At 24 weeks the survival rate goes up to 40-70 per cent.

James Elgin Gill, born in 1987 in Canada was the earliest premature birth in the world – being born 128 days early at 21 weeks, 5 days gestation, and weighing 1lb 6oz. His record was broken in 2014.

The law

In certain US states, you can’t call a baby a baby until 20 weeks gestation

Over here, a foetus is not a considered person with rights in the eyes of the law until birth.

It can’t have any legal rights of its own until it’s been born and has a separate existence from the mother.

In 2014, an Australian woman whose unborn child died in a car crash with a drunk driver a week before she was due to give birth tried to get a law passed which would give all foetuses past 30 weeks’ gestation full rights as a human being.

“When a woman loses her unborn child she’s not able to grieve in the same way as a woman who gave birth to a baby that dies after being born.

“When a woman loses her unborn baby it’s almost like you don’t speak of it.

“A woman goes through it alone and I believe that’s because other people don’t recognise it as a human, as a baby.

“This isn’t just about a woman grieving over her baby and not being able to give her baby life, it’s about not recognising that this is a baby. It’s just a tiny baby.”

Doctors urged Sharran to have the baby surgically removed after a sonogram showed Miran’s heart had stopped beating – but she refused as she “didn’t want her baby to come out in pieces”, opting instead to give birth naturally 173 days before his due date.

After days spent studying Miran and taking his handprints, the stay at home mum, Michael and their children buried him in a plant box in their garden at the suggestion of a funeral director.

Sharran, who homeschools her other children, said: “The doctor said we can either dispose of it as medical waste, or you can call a funeral home.

“I was so angered by her calling my baby a ‘foetus’. I couldn’t believe she would insinuate he was medical waste. I was so angered by that.

“But I also felt like a funeral seemed extreme. I didn’t know what to do and I was faced with this decision.

“My husband and I discussed burying him in a planter box filled with hydrangeas that would grow each year and come back to remind us of him, and we thought it was a great idea.

“When I got home [from the hospital] I made a saline solution and I put him in it and I put him in my refrigerator.

“I know that sounds morbid to some people but I didn’t want him to decompose or smell. I didn’t know what else to do. We weren’t ready to bury him yet.

“We had him almost a week. In that time I was able to get his handprints, take his pictures, hold him, grieve to an extent. But I had that time with him which I think really helped a lot.

“When it came time to bury him, that was hard. I wanted to dig him back up.

“I wanted to just keep him in my fridge. I didn’t care if people thought it was morbid – I wanted to keep him there forever.”

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